When they say no one can do any more to you than you allow them to, I believe it...to a degree. Obviously if someone is being held captive, they cannot just walk away. But, sometimes we can be holding ourselves captive mentally because we have allowed this muddled way of thinking of the other person to find its way into our worlds, our minds, our hearts. And, essentially those same perspectives and thoughts of the other party began to become the norm.
There are a lot of things or people that could be an influence on your situation. Please don't allow any of this to infiltrate on your peace and life itself.
When you walk away from this situation or person, you will notice a change in your life. Sometimes it even happens very suddenly in order to show you immediately (instant gratification). I've seen people get multiple jobs all of a sudden when they have rid themselves of these toxins. There are toxic situations, people and places.
When you cannot walk away, it is bc you have allowed it/him/her to infiltrate in on your peace. You have begun to believe all they say or exhibit when it pertains to you. I was always told believe none of what I hear and only half of what I see. To piggyback off that, I must admit I am a watcher of body language. The words don't really matter to me considering so many are used so loosely these days.
You see the world is all based on perception. It is whatever you perceive it to be. There would not be innocent people incarcerated was it based on truth. A jury is made up of 12 people that decide one's fate based on how they perceive the evidence and the person's image oftentimes. People sure do have a way with words and every picture is not worth 1,000.
The toxins can hold you back from so many things. Forgive before you walk away or it will forever haunt you. You give it to God all while understanding the forgiveness is for you;not them. The first step is to accept it/him/her for exactly what/who they are. Once they show you their true colors; believe them. Their season or reason may just be up in your life. Believe it or not, there are some dead beat dads/moms that were just put into one's life to give them children;not to stick around and take care of them. Once you have accepted it for what/who it is, your eyes will begin to open up to things you never imagined. Your focus comes back and you finally realize it was for your own good. It may even be that you have to see this situation going downhill for yourself before you completely let go. Then come the blessings in abundance as long as you really forgave. No one said you have to forget. But, at some point it becomes a distant memory and one you can laugh at because now that your mind is clear, you cannot imagine what you were even thinking about getting into it in the first place. Now, you can blossom and be the person that situation wouldn't allow you to be. Life is too short!
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