The NERVE of U...

     Good early morning, people. I pray that your past few weeks have been blissful, to say the least.Well, it is 3:16 am and I am still up. Just came from Da Back Porch reminiscing about various conversations and situations I have happened upon lately. I had so many topics in my head at one point that I almost went mad! I suppose I need to write things down more often. That way, I can keep my ideas fresh.
   Well, ladies and gentlemen, as you may well know, I do not just believe in just bashing one sex any more than another on my blog. This is just the place where it all gets real and down to the nitty gritty...as my Aunt Jean used to say. So, here goes...
    So, what I want to know is where is this magical kingdom where people can go live for free. I am talking about the sons and daughters who live with their parents, that are not asked to pay bills, but stay content with  themselves living off of someone else's income.They want to be allowed to do everything in your house except pay a bill. They want to screw in your house, have parties, and invite others over while the house is not its cleanest. However, he/she pays NO BILLS! So, the only thing you need to be doing (as my child) in my household...is WHAT I SAY OR ASK OF YOU. Not only are they the brunt of this conversation, but as well are the significant others living with your mates, but continue to expect them to foot most of the bills because:
  a) he/she may have had the place before you came along, so you may feel if they paid it before me, they
  can darn well pay it while I am here..(Duh?...more people incur more bills at a residence.) And, this is not
  rocket science, people.
  b) or, he/she makes more than you, so you may feel he/she is responsible for most of the bills...(Ummm,                    
  that is certainly not fair considering that person may also have some personal bills they pay outside of the
  household bills), or,
  c) he/she may feel entitled to being fully taken care of-(And, ladies/gents, that may be cool as long as the
  person footing most of the bills is given a choice in the matter, and agrees to this).
  d) or even, that his/her significant other, as an individual owes him/her versus the feeling the entire world
  owes him/her
   Then, there's the mothers/fathers that may go live with one of their grown children (not because they are sick, or handicapped) but rather for them not making a real effort in keeping a place to live of their own). In this situation, if the grown child has a significant other in the home, the tension in the home could expand. If the parent feels threatened at times, by the significant other, it could be for many reasons, including just sheer jealousy. However, it is for this particular reason that you must address this issue. The mother/father could have a sense of entitlement, whereas, he/she feels her child owes him/her. Whoops, there goes the bill paying out of the window. He/she feels this is his/her child's house and they should not be made to pay bills. This could cause a serious riff in the parent- child relationship. Or, even worse, it could cause a riff in the relationship between the couple....(because at the end of the day, they'll be there in the same house after the parent is gone).  Unnecessary stressing is what this can lead to.
     And, here we go with the couples who fall on hard times. For the ones that keep pushing forward, that is what it is, and I respect your gangsta. For the ones that may have to go live with a friend for awhile, all the while, no one is around attempting to get a job. The couple is not paying any bills. They may/may not spend their EBT in your home...on your families, but they don't have a problem hiding their food and snacks whenever they may sneak back in from the grocery store. Or, they may feel like if you don't speak about a bill, they cease to exist. (This is sooooo not true).
   Let's get it together, people. This is beginning to get ridiculous! You cannot go live anywhere for FREE! Heck, where I live, you even pay to stay in a homeless shelter. Now, that is beyond me. We have dedicated mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, sisters, brothers, boyfriends, and girlfriends that are willing to take care of the household as long as they agree to these arrangements and are being fully appreciated. However, they should not have to do MOST of it or all alone. It's just not fair at all. We have to pay for electricity in order to see. We pay rent in order to have a roof over our heads. We pay a water bill in order to clean and drink. No one ever said this would be fun. But, the bottom line is it has to be done. BILLS MUST BE PAID!
   Not to mention, if you take more pride in yourself and decide the best way to live is to pay your own way, you can make anything happen. AGAIN, take me to this magical place where you all are living for free. Take me to this magical place where you don't even have to do as much as lift a finger in your parents' homes or in anyone else's home for that matter. Have some home training. If not, at least have some respect and morals for yourself. Like I said before...."the nerve of u."