Good afternoon, people. How are you?...It's been a while, huh? Well...the topic of the days is how it used to take a village to raise a child. Lord have mercy on the children, adolescents, teenagers and young adults that are in this generation.
You can buy your kids any & everything they want and you still may have to beg them to take out the trash....right to the dumpster in the front yard of the house where you pay all the bills. The same house where they choose to sleep every night, where they pay no bills, wash no dishes, or sweep any floors. Yes, this is your house, ladies and gentlemen. Let's take a walk down memory lane. Back in the days, it used to be that the neighbors in your area all knew your children and were well aware of how far they were able to go with your children. Parents had no qualms when it came to someone else disciplining their children in their absence. There were more carpools, more organic ways of communicating with one another regarding each other's children. Used to be when "Little Christy" was misbehaving at Miss Johnston's house, Miss Johnston would be quick to take Christy back home to explain to her mother why and how Little Christy was already scolded. At that point, "Little Christy" was in tears and knew moving forward, not to mess with Miss Johnston....because even in Mommy's absence, Miss Johnston used her parenting skills to encourage a more obedient behavior in children. There was no question that when visiting someone else's home, you would possibly still be scolded and punished for your actions. No one was upset or mad at the "scolding non-parent" for disciplining their child. They all understood. It was an unspoken issue. In other words, it was a "given." The fact of the matter is the effect it had on the scolded kids was more than sufficient. They would begin to refrain from disobedient acts while spending time at the "scolder's" homes. For one, the child did not want their parents to be told of their actions as well as not wanting to be scolded again by another Mrs. Johnston.
Nowadays, people are much more concerned about doing what's considered being "politically correct" than about what is really in the child's best interests. Now, even parents themselves are afraid to scold or talk to their children in a slightly raised voice for fear Child Protective Services will be contacted in regards to possible child neglect or abuse allegations. Once those people are in your lives, they are usually there for a while. They want to drug test you and your children, while asking a million questions you never thought you'd be asked by a government agency. Basically, they are there to get in your mix. People with unresolved beef with another will be quick to contact the local CPS with false allegations made against the opposing parent. Then, it's all she wrote. The accused will be lucky to come through the process with CPS totally unscathed.
I remember the times when if you even had so much as what was referred to as "the last word" with another figure of authority, it was grounds to be reprimanded...either by a good old fashioned spanking or a thorough washing out of the mouth with soap. In this day and time, you hear children cussing with or at their parents without so much as a, "What did you just say," being spoken. It's terrible. This generation has to be "The Lost Generation." They are completely lost...lost to morals, to guidance and most often lost to respect. This essentially leads to a loss of prioritizing later in life and may even lead to a cycle of this generation's adolescents raising another lost soul.
They walk in your house and don't speak. They even may have an attitude with you, the parent, for whatever reason and not speak to whomever may be visiting you when they walk in. No chores are being done. No manners are being taught...or perhaps they are being taught, but not enforced. No responsibilities are being assigned. We, as parents have to STAND UP & raise our children....before they begin to RAISE US.
Bottom line, if you are a child with a loss of the aforementioned and in my presence....YOU CAN DO JUST THAT...GET LOST!
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