Hello, everyone. Hopefully, all the mothers out there had a fabulous Mother's Day weekend. Mine was ok to say the least. I did receive some white fresh roses, chocolate covered strawberries from Edible Arrangements, a card and a huge chocolate chip cookie cake acknowledging the day.
And, of course, I just came in from Da Back Porch, so my mind is a little less muddled now. In other words, I can think more clearly. There's nothing like going to Da Back Porch to speak with my neighbors. My neighbors are Spaniards. I would not have it any other way. They mind their business and, I reciprocate. I respect their "Gangsta." The feeling is mutual. Any time I have lived among Mexicans, I've had no issues. I am almost positive that this respected behavior stems from the fact that they have too much going on amongst themselves. This is the way more Americans should be. At some point, you have to believe that if you were to focus on your own issues and what you are trying to have going on, you would not have a split second in the day to worry about me.
So, today, I'll be touching on a few situations where one was focused more on the wrong thing than the issue at hand. This way of thinking could slow down progress, hinder you from attaining some personal goals, and simply irritate the heck out of someone who tends to look at things from every perspective until they come up with a logical reason or an answer to an issue. Geesh! So, I work part time as a bartender at a strip club. And, I nor my boyfriend have an automobile. We get to work by way of taxis and close friends or neighbors when they come around. There is only one major taxi company here. However, I took it upon myself to call another small taxi cab company due to the major one expressing their concern over coming to get me from this particular location. Well, of course, my boyfriend works at the same club as I. So, since he gets off after me, I usually call the taxi cab company as soon as I count my bar down. This particular night, the taxi took an extremely long time getting to us. So much so, in fact, that when the doors were locked, me and my significant other were still standing outside, while drizzling, waiting on our cab. Everyone else was gone. He begins to start mumbling under his breath about this being such a mishap. He then starts saying things with a little more depth to his voice. He continues to go on and on about how he cannot stand for our coworkers or even our late night patrons to see us out there WAITING on our ride. Then, he goes on to say he is not with this waiting and that there's no telling what our passers by are thinking of us. Again, he continues to mumble, "they probably talking about us...wondering why we don't have a car." First of all, I work hard every weekend to come up with money to pay the bills at my home. Second of all, I pay cabs to take me everywhere. I probably spend about $600 per month in taxi services. And, like I told him, "the very ones that you are worried about looking at us are probably the same ones trying to line up before 10:00pm in order to avoid paying an entry fee. They don't even have taxi fare so, I could care less what they think." In this particular situation, the only thing those people could do for me, with their judgmental looks, is motivate me to get a car. I am the least bit worried over what they are thinking. Just know that they'll be singing a different tune once I pull up in whatever model car I decide to own first. And, because I don't ever want to stand outside an establishment waiting on a ride again, I will be persistent in my searching. I guess when you get to a certain age, you really don't care how someone feels about you. I mean, let's be ADULTS here, what someone says about me does not make me or break me. All I could continue to think about
during this incident was that WE have a home to go to. I can recall a time when we did not have a home to rest at. Heck, some of the girls working at the club may not have a home to go to. Some of these people live in motels because their money is not guaranteed everyday and that seems to be a cheaper way out for them. (All utilities included). Sounds good, huh? Plus, Jesus was a sinless man; however, he was talked about profusely throughout the Bible...mostly by non believers and the like. But, Jesus held his head high through it all. He was crucified but sinless.
I have a few friends looking for a place to stay...(ironic seeing as tough we just touched on that subject matter). One of them is currently living in a hotel with all the amenities paying over $300 per week. So, I'd obtained a property list from my landlord for another friend. This friend is currently residing with another friend who has her hands full. Going through the list, I tell her he has (2) 3 bedroom houses for under $600 per month. One was $400 per month while the other was $525 per month. She begins asking where the houses were located, and whether they have heat or air included . I am thinking to myself...BUT RIGHT NOW, YOU HAVE NOWHERE ELSE TO GO! In my mind, I'm like, "you have to crawl before you walk." But, she was adamant about her sudden reservations. I would let some heaters or air conditioners run as long as my power bill didn't start resembling a hot air balloon. (Blown up). Well, I go visit the other friend in need of a place. I let him know about what I saw on the property list and the prices. I tell him that the highest rental reflected a $525.00 amount. He then says to me, "Nah, I wanna pay more like $700 per month. I say, "Are you serious?" Then, he begins to ask me where the properties are located. I tell him what I know. He is not satisfied. So, here comes my inner thinking mode. Why would you wanna pay more rent than you have to? He is literally spending over $1200 per month in that room. And, now you say you'd rather spend $700 per month than the $525? What kind of sense does that make? Some people do things to impress others. Don't let your mouth write a check your a$$ cannot cash.
People, remember that in this day and age, we (African Americans) are getting the short end of the stick, because most of the time WE ARE OUR OWN WORSE ENEMIES! They are worried about the wrong thing. They are so busy hating on the next man, that they block their blessings. Give someone a chance, people. Most people theses days do not want to turn another person on to something profitable for fear that that person will get ahead of them and forget who gave them a hand. One never knows ...the one person you put up on game, may turn around and put you on some bigger things. But, for the most part. people are envious and selfish. Put someone else on some game, and watch what happens. When you assume, you make an a$$ out of you and me. And, I am clean out of a$$ uniforms! (Smile). Let's get it together people! Put your game faces back on and kick a$$ first. Ask questions later. Rid your body of all envious spirits and that selfish ways of thinking. Whomever is your God, take it to him. I truly believe sometimes people just talk to hear themselves talk. No plot, no meaning, and no intentions...but to be heard. So, let us take a stand on the issue at hand: WORRYING ABOUT THE WRONG THING. We must show and prove. We can do whatever we want to do without worrying about the next person coming out on top. You should be proud of your friends and family during their rises to the top...not envious. We should celebrate when a loved one gets a promotion, a new job, a better car, a nicer home, and the like. Celebrate with them to let them know how happy you are for them and their good news. When you don't celebrate accomplishments during your life, God will allow it to slip away from you. He will remove that, just so it won't cause any confusion in your home life. We must become more focused on what WE ARE ATTEMPTING TO ACCOMPLISH. We need personal goals, people. Again, if we were to focus on what it is we are trying to do, we will not have a second in the day to worry about another's whereabouts and what not. It could improve our concentration skills as well as strengthen us as individuals on the whole. Not to mention. God does not like for us to worry bc He feels we are trying to do his job. What that reflects is a lack of faith. Faith is belief in things unseen. Let's not lose sight of what is more important. I'll worry about me and you do the same as for yourself. Giving one a chance may be the underlying reason that you make it to the next level later on. They may pull you up there with them. And, if not, you know you did your part in offering initially. You will be blessed for this deed as long as you did not do it begrudgingly. Stop worrying about other people so much. It will take its toll on you. I've seen it break up lasting friendships, kill a marriage, and threaten relationships to the hilt. So, we need to do better. Only if we KNEW BETTER....
#BACK PORCH BOUND
#needamomentlikeatwix
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